Tantrums, anxiety, hiding of real emotions and low self-esteem: unfortunately, some parents manage to pass on all these negative qualities to their children. Their selfishness and indifference to their children’s feelings have a great impact on them in their childhood. As a result, children start to criticize themselves, feel helpless and have problems in their social life.
We decided to study this topic to help our readers better understand their inner world. Knowing the reasons for our fears and anxiety can help us heal them and improve our lives.
You are afraid of manipulation.
Toxic families often use manipulation to control other family members. In everyday life, this behavior is not normal and becomes emotional abuse. It can make you feel less confident in the people around you and prevent you from having relationships. Feeling constantly manipulated by your family can also lead to avoidance behaviors.
You have difficulty with social interactions and trusting others.
When a person has grown up in a tense environment, surrounded by manipulation and other mental abuse, it leaves its mark on that person. Some parents may not have been able to give their children the support they needed. In another case, a person may live in a home where he or she feels as though he or she must be on guard at all times. In later life, it will be difficult to shake the feeling of having to be in this state all the time. Finally, difficulties may arise in trusting and opening up to others.
Attachment issues are difficult. By constantly seeing and experiencing physical and emotional abuse, mistreatment and abandonment, they form their own image of relationships. They may not understand what a healthy, loving connection between people looks like. Unconsciously, they always expect the people around them to overreact, be demanding, blame them for something or let them down.
You have a hard time accepting failure.
Children raised in a toxic environment may constantly feel that they are not good enough or worthless. Their parents may have always demanded too much of them and scolded them if they didn’t meet their expectations. In fact, they have developed low self-esteem and a lack of attention to themselves. As a result, the slightest mistake or failure can scare them into a tantrum.
Your sense of personal identity is low.
Positive family “self-esteem” is an essential element when we talk about our mental health. It is just as important as a sense of being loved and belonging. If a child’s relationship with his or her parents is abusive, the child may begin to have problems with his or her inner world, identity and self-esteem. This leads to negative effects such as anxiety and even depression.
Criticize themselves a lot.
Low self-esteem, created by toxic parents, makes the child feel stupid, unworthy and undeserving of achieving something better. In everything these children do, they criticize themselves, doubt themselves and have doubts. They have accepted that they are worse than others, which makes them suffer mentally, but they can’t change that because they don’t get the mental support they need.
Always put your emotions last.
Parents who are verbally or physically abusive neglect their children’s emotions. Also, if children try to express their emotions, it can lead to further abuse from the family. As a result, children develop a habit of hiding their pain, resentment and anger. Later in life, they may begin to put others’ emotions ahead of their own.
Repressed emotions also affect a person’s self-identity. They have trouble understanding who they are, how they feel, and what they want in their lives. Thus, they fail to develop in the areas of life that are important to them because, mentally, they are always held back by uncertainty and lack of previous closeness.
You have always felt like a helpless child.
Toxic parents sometimes refuse to recognize their child as an adult. Regardless of the child’s age, these parents always try to treat the child as a helpless child. They want to control and command, and if they encounter any resistance, they act offensively to make their child feel guilty.
If a child is not allowed to make his or her own decisions, has his or her privacy invaded and does not feel like an independent person, it can be detrimental to his or her mental health. They may become anxious, afraid to start something new and not be able to fit in with society.